balance?

How do you truly balance being real about who you are with honoring and obeying God? I know that He does not think that I am something more than I really am, but He does expect me to be fervently seeking Him. I just don't want to pretend to be something I'm not and I also do not want to act in a manner displeasing to God simply out of my desire for "realism". We should never stop striving to grow, to mature as followers of Jesus Christ. I guess what I really desire is for that need to grow to be so ingrained that I don't have to second guess my actions for their impact on those around me. It would be so amazing to simply know that my actions, my words, my very heart reflected the presence of God in my life.